Would you say you are bad at something? It could be anything; maths, science, football, art, absolutely anything at all. If the answer is yes, YOU may have what is called a ‘fixed mindset’.
What is a ‘fixed mindset’?
“believing your qualities are fixed traits and therefore they cannot be changed”
I only discovered this idea around 2 weeks ago, when in a seminar concerning how children and us, as adults, learn. The concept revolves around the argument that if you are told you are not good at something, this automatically tells your brain to stop engaging with that particular task/subject learning since there is no point you trying to carry on pursuing it. This is why people struggle to become great at a subject they find difficult in school for example.
It is also important to note that you as an individual may feel that you achieve very well in a certain hobby or subject, and that’s completely great. However, what isn’t so great may be when you have been told numerous times how bright you are at one thing, but when something may go wrong for you from time to time, this can have catastrophic effects on your self – esteem as well as the attitude you may have towards that activity in the future. If you have been told you can do something so much, and are then told you can no longer do this as well, your brain cannot process why this may be, hence why we end up stressed and upset.
Can I change my mindset?
Good news, YES you can! Nothing is ever set in stone, just like your outlook on life. I’ve recently been exploring the idea of trying to take on a ‘growth mindset’ instead – the argument that people who believe that the most basic abilities can be formed through dedication and hard work – brains and talent are just the starting point. People with a growth mindset are often happier as they don’t see any negative experiences as failures, rather instead they choose to look at them as mishaps on the way to becoming successful in the end. I can imagine it is hard not to become caught up in feeling so pessimistic at times, but in reality will you really remember that one time you were sad last year on the 12th September 2019? Most likely not. So live everyday to its full potential, don’t shy away from doing something just because you scared of what others may think, live life to the full, because who knows if we will get another one?
Love El xx